Dr Helen Care, Clinical Psychologist offers some useful tips on coping through unsettling times.
One of the ways we can keep a hold of the everyday in the face of a big problem such as Coronavirus is to physically write down all the little things that bring you a bit of joy or give you a sense of normality. A Jar of Joy is a technique that people have been using in various versions for years to do just that. The jar can be made by all ages – parents and children alike or even have a family one that anyone can add things to.
A Jar of Joy is a very simple idea that packs a big punch. Take a jar (or any kind of container you like) and decorate it. Although not essential, this really helps to give it some importance. Invest time in it, even if it is only five minutes and it will feel much more special. If you get to decorate it your own way, it will also hold some personal value to you.
You should never underestimate the power of feeling pride in something you have made, no matter how unskilled you might feel. Put your jar or container somewhere you can see it easily.
Any time something happens that brings a little moment of joy, however small, write it down on a scrap of paper and put it in the jar. Challenge yourself to find at least two things every day.
Seeing the jar gradually fill can be an incredibly helpful and positive experience in itself. It’s also good to have something to look back on when things feel bleak, to remind us that there are good things out there.
The Jar of Joy isn’t about solving problems, but about holding onto the better moments.
Examples of joyful experiences for parents
Something your child said that was funny or memorable
Something you said to your child that made them smile
Something you had never seen your child do before
Something someone said that made you smile or feel good
A compliment to you or anyone else in your family